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Weekend Sermon: Three Forms of Parenting

Weekend Sermon: January 7,8 2012

The Three Forms of Parenting

When we talk about parenting, the question inevitably arises - and, what is parenting? So at the beginning of our topic it will be appropriate to give a definition of parenting.

Parenting - it is a deliberate and systemic influence of the older generation on the younger, to bring them to a specific purpose and to prepare them for independent living.
God does not accidentally give life to every human being, but has a defined goal and mission. And the task of parents in the parenting is to help your child to open and display all the gifts that God has prepared for him.
If you make comparative parallels, Parenting is similar to the root of the tree that feeds life-giving juices not only to the trunk and crown of the tree that we enjoy, but most importantly for the tree-fruit intended for human consumption. The better educated the child, the better he will do God's purpose, and will please the family in which he lives and the society in which he is in. Therefore the main task of Parenting is "to bring up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord" Ephesians 6:4

The main text of which I would like to share with you today and to think about it is a parable of Jesus Christ presented in Luke Ch. 10 - verses 30 to 36

Gospel of Luke 10:30-36

I would like to direct particular attention to verse 36 and ask paraphrasing it somewhat ask all of us a question:
Which of these three, do you think got the best education and why?
What parenting did these three people have?

In order to properly answer this question, we need to know, even the basic child-rearing practices.

1.) Authoritative - parents kindly exhort, on the basis of morality and prudence, show personal examples in specific circumstances, determine and direct the way for their children.

2.) Authoritarian (totalitarian or dictatorial) following the formula, "I said so, and you must do so."

This approach leads to alienation, rebellion and repression of the individual. In the future a child brought up under the unquestioned, dictatorial, pressure parents is not able to make decisions consciously and will evade responsibility, under various excuses.

3.) Method of absolute permissiveness is expressed in the formula: "Do what you want and however you want, you are the one who will be responsible."

This is the wrong approach to parenting because the child does not always see the consequences of their actions. Typically, such children grow up selfish and fundamentally immoral people.

Do you still remember my question? (Repeat the question: What kind of parenting did these three people recieve?)

Let's take a closer look at the actions of each of them.

- The priest- seeing the man, he passed by, this is human behavior typical of a selfish person, thinking only about yourself, your welfare and not wishing to interfere with anything, let alone have compassion for anyone whatsoever. (A typical representative of the parenting method of absolute permissiveness.).

Levite - walked by and looked, and passed on- this is a response to his Instructions or simply orders the father - you have to help, you must think, you must grow up to be a man, you should ... you should ... And when son or daughter ask: why should I? The father did not explain, he says: "Because I said so! and thats the way you need to do it!"

Unexplained reasons, leads to the opposition, bursts of rebellion, "I will not do it, I do not have to!" And are then followed by refusal to follow the principles of good, that were not skillfully applied to the child's upbringing. The Child subsequently does not develop as a person who is able to guide his will, and be able to respond, to the principles of duty and responsibility but to irresponsibility, because it's simpler and easier. And there is no reason to fear anyone!
Alienation, rebellion, and the weakly expressed will for the good, oppresed personality (however that happended) are the main characteristics of the individual brought up in a dictatorial regime.

3.) The authoritative way (method) of Parenting.

Our noble hero - the Good Samaritan.
Bible commentators agree that this is the image of Christ, and If so, then his testimony, "What I see from the Father, I do" in the best way presents to us authoritative parenting. All that he did, his father was the authority for the Son. He absorbed himself in the habit, instruction, business, kindness, ethics, love and willingness to sacrifice everything he had (donkey, provisions [wine, and oil], his safety, finances, time, and much more) in order because to fullfill his duty. And it was taught to him by the father. He (the father) did so and I'll be doing this as well no matter the cost.

So, in the parenting we need to solve the following challenges:

1). Channel and instill a love for God and neighbor that becomes their way of life and belief. Mark 12:30-31 Psalm 111:1-2

2). Consolidate practical life skills and principles, with your life show love and life to God and neighbor, setting an example of Christian behavior. 1 John 3:18

3). Prepare children for independent living and for builing relationships with God, people and society. Colossians 1:10:13

Performing all of these tasks is a lot of work, but the fruits of this work is invaluable, especially because it is OUR children and their souls. Becoming a parent is not difficult, but to be worthy parents, that bring their children into godly fruit - the award can only be measured by eternity.

May God bless and help us!

- A Ivantsov